With the added stress of the holidays here again, here is a list of things to remember during or after a divorce to help your kids have the best holiday season:
Remember that with all the things changing in your children’s life, the holidays need to be a time of happiness for your children.
Remember the holidays are a time to be with family.
Remember that your children have two parents.
Remember that there are two sets of grandparents.
Remember that you have made traditions over the years for your children.
Remember that just because you are getting a divorce does not mean that your children have to lose their traditions.
Remember that it is also time to start new traditions.
Remember that there may be cousins, aunts and uncles on both sides that want to see your children. Do your children have to wait a year to see them because you are getting a divorce?
Remember that it is not fair to your children for you and your spouse to ruin the holidays by fighting about whether the children come home at 8:00 p.m. or 8:30 p.m.
Remember that it is important to try to find a way for your children to enjoy both of their parents during this time.
Remember that being nasty and spiteful and refusing to compromise at this time ONLY hurts your children and they will remember this. And your spouse will remember this next year when it is his or her holiday.
Remember to have your children call the parent that they are not with over the holidays as well as their grandparents.
Remember that we should all be thankful for what we have; There are others a lot worse off.
Remember the good times with your spouse and consider, if it is possible, having a joint celebration.
Remember to take the high road.
And most of all remember to have a Happy Holiday!
Peace on Earth, Good Will Toward All!