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Sometimes Quicker Isn’t Better

By September 21, 2016July 21st, 2023Divorce

I was watching a bird walk down the sidewalk this morning, sort of meandering along, picking up a piece of grass or straw or a worm along his way, and I thought how much more efficient his travel would be if he just started to fly. But of course, had he flown from point A to point B, he would have missed the grass and straw and maybe, more importantly for his nutrition, the worm. It made me think of all of those friends and clients who are in such a rush to get divorced that they just want it over–now. They want to fly through the process; they don’t want to think too much about how to get there or what will happen after, they just want to be divorced and they want it done quickly.

Of course the problem with a quick divorce is you can miss a lot along the way. You can give up property or money that you are entitled to. You can give up time with your kids all in an effort to speed up a process that is really best pursued thoughtfully and carefully.

Of course, it’s up to you how to live your life, and we often have clients sign letters telling us not to do work and not to investigate and to just get them divorced as fast as we can and damn the consequences. And while we can do that, we never advise it, because as long as it took you to decide to get divorced, shouldn’t you give the same respect to your life after? Shouldn’t you be sure you’re doing what’s best for your future? Shouldn’t you take your time to honor all you put in in the past? So while it may seem so important to get through this and over it, be careful and cautious. Don’t let your desire to be quick override what’s really in your interests and that of your children.

For this or any other family law issue, please call one of the family law attorneys at Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal. P.C.


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