Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, P.C. posted in Divorce on Wednesday, May 25, 2015.
When you’re ready to be divorced, you’re ready for it to be done. Today. Now. Immediately. As soon as possible. But just as it may have taken you months or years to get to the place where you can say “enough,” your spouse may need the same amount of time, or even longer, to process your decision and comprehend that the divorce process is underway. Because of this emotional and psychological processing, getting the divorce done may take longer than you prefer.
In addition, if your spouse doesn’t agree, the court may take some time to make sure that any resolution of your marriage is fair and equitable to all parties. The court system is not geared to give people the “quickie” divorce they may seek (unless the parties agree on all of the outstanding issues and divorce by consent.) There are thousands of cases filed each year in St. Louis County, for example, and each contested case takes it turn on the court’s docket. Months may go by without any action on your case by the court and, as frustrating as this may be, it is the practical consequence of having so many families in one court system.
Finding a healthy way to maintain your composure as your case winds its way (however slowly) through the system, is as important as deciding to divorce. Talking to a family law attorney, like the ones at Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, P.C. can be helpful.