As the holiday season approaches, families transitioning through divorce face unique challenges that can evoke a range of feelings from joy to stress. Here are some tips to help make this time smoother for everyone.
1. Prioritize Communication
Establish clear communication with your ex-spouse and kids. Decide on the best methods of communication for your family—Our Family Wizard, email, texting, or something else? Schedule times for the kids to connect with both parents, providing predictability. Review your parenting plan early and discuss the holiday schedule with your ex-spouse to get everyone on the same page before the celebrations begin. If you’re in the middle of the divorce process and don’t have a parenting plan, reach out to your attorney early to create one, or at least to plan for this year’s holidays. Creating a checklist of exchange-related details to discuss with your ex-spouse can help ensure smooth transitions and reduce misunderstandings, making everyone feel secure and supported.
2. Focus On the Kids
Center your kids—don’t put them in the middle. Keep the children’s needs at the forefront of your holiday plans. Involve them in planning holiday traditions and activities to help them feel more in control during a potentially overwhelming time.
3. Create New Traditions
Embrace the opportunity to create new family traditions. This can be a refreshing way to establish a positive holiday outlook. Whether it’s a new meal, outing, or activity, new traditions can foster a sense of belonging and joy.
4. Set Realistic Expectations
The holidays may not look the same as they once did. Setting realistic expectations for yourself and your family can help alleviate pressure and allow space for mixed emotions without judgment. Remember that it’s natural to feel a range of feelings during this time.
5. Call On Your Support System
If the holiday season feels particularly challenging, seek support from friends, family, or professionals. Counseling can help with navigating emotions and enhance coping strategies. If you’re traveling, look for local resources or support meetings.
The holiday season can still be a time of joy and connection, even amidst change. By prioritizing communication, focusing on the kids, and being open to new experiences, divorced families can create meaningful celebrations and fond memories.
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