By Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, P.C. of Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, P.C. posted in Divorce on Thursday, December 8, 2011.
By Allison Schreiber Lee
During and after a divorce, the holidays can bring out the best and worst in people; especially when children are involved. On the good side, many times people are able to set aside their differences and be kind to the other parent during the holidays- ensuring that the children are able to spend quality time with both parents during this time of year. There are those ex-spouses where both can attend holiday functions and get along well (though at times it can be awkward); there are those ex-spouses where each one will take a different part of the holiday and have separate celebrations because tension is just too high. Both take into account the best interests of the children, both are acceptable alternatives. Whichever way you spend the holidays, do the best you can for yourself and your kids. Don’t beat yourself up if you and your ex-spouse are not getting along- just realize that in most cases, things will calm down over time, tensions will dissipate, and eventually the holidays will not be nearly as stressful as they are in the beginning of separation and divorce.