Making the decision to divorce is rarely easy. It typically takes years (sometimes decades) for people to decide to end their marriage. The decision usually comes after years of unhappiness that lead a person to the point where they are at the end of their rope and can no longer stay in the marriage.
And yet, while you have reached the point of no return, the culmination of an internal process that may have been years in the making, the legal process moves at its own rate, one that is often far slower than you could have imagined. The end of your mental anguish over making such a momentous decision is often the beginning of your entry into a court system in which progress proceeds at a snail’s pace. Your frustration can feel overwhelming and unbearable.
But in spite of your aggravation at the system, to allow yourself and your attorney to achieve the best results possible, you have to find a way to stay the course and keep your composure. It’s a mistake to let your annoyance with the process influence your behavior both at home and against your spouse (and sometimes children), so good counsel during the divorce process is essential.
Divorce involves more than a bundle of legal rights; it has an impact on your life in ways you can’t imagine. You’ll need to be prepared for the long haul, with support from many corners of your life: family, friends, counselors, financial advisors, and knowledgeable attorneys.