Think Twice About Saying You Can’t Co-Parent

By August 19, 2015Abuse

Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, P.C. posted in Divorce on Tuesday, August 19, 2014.

By Allison Schreiber Lee

Getting divorced is difficult, but what people sometimes fail to realize is that if you have children, your interaction with your former spouse continues long after the divorce is finished whether you like it or not. In most cases, courts in Missouri grant joint legal custody, which requires that parents work together in making legal decisions for the children’s well-being. Agreeing when you are married can be difficult; agreeing after you are divorced can be even more so.

Often parents call their attorneys to tell us how it is impossible to co-parent with their former spouse or how they simply cannot get along. While ex-partners frequently don’t get along very well, the ramifications of their disharmony are often unexpected and very harmful to children. If a court determines that parents cannot communicate effectively (which can be very hard to prove, given that many divorced parents have difficulty with each other) the court can award sole legal custody to one parent. This means that one parent gets to make all major decisions for the children without the other parent having meaningful participation. Practically speaking, this can mean that if your ex is given sole legal custody, your ability to say “no” to legal custody issues (such as choice of schools, doctors, extracurricular activities, and summer camps) or to have any input can be significantly or completely restricted.

So when determining whether something is worth fighting for with your ex and when deciding whether to make every issue a difficult one, be aware that your actions now, and your willingness to communicate, can come back later to haunt you or help you. For any assistance in these issues, the family law attorneys at Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, P.C. can help guide you through the process.

 

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Allison Schreiber Lee

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Allison Schreiber Lee is a seasoned trial attorney. In family law matters, Ms. Lee has extensive experience in high conflict custody and high asset property division matters. Ms. Lee has counseled clients in matters involving mental health and addiction concerns, and emotional, verbal and physical abuse issues. She represents both men and women in divorces, motions to modify child support, custody and maintenance, and in seeking and defending against orders of protection.
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