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Whether it’s you or your spouse who wants to end your marriage, the divorce process will bring profound and lasting changes to your family’s life. You should consider divorce mediation, where you and your spouse meet with a neutral third party who will help you come up with a workable resolution of your divorce issues. Here’s why:
1. Stay in Control–Think of the divorce process as the beginning of your trip down the post-marriage highway. How do you feel about putting a stranger in the driver’s seat while you ride in the back seat, hoping that you’ll get to a destination you’ll like? Mediation allows you and your spouse, rather than a judge, to decide your family’s future.
2. Save Your Money–Divorce trials are expensive. In mediation, you and your spouse are doing most of the “heavy lifting,” your lawyers’ roles can be greatly reduced, and, usually, only one professional “meter” is running during the bulk of the process.
3. Plan for Your Future–Rather than wasting time finding fault with your spouse, in mediation the two of you will map out the future of your family together.
4. Protect Your Children–Judges don’t love your children the way you do. When Mom and Dad work together, the children have the benefit of a thoughtful plan that protects them from the terror of parental conflict.
5. Avoid Going Back to Court–As your kids grow older you’ll probably need to make changes to your parenting and support arrangements. With a successful track record in mediation, you’ll know that you and your ex- will be able to make the adjustments necessary for your children’s well-being without spending your kids’ college money on lawyers and judges.