“I’d hire you guys. You come off as very human.”

I attended a family law conference this past summer, during which a psychologist from the East Coast presented a fascinating session on why children whose moms and dads live apart from one another sometimes refuse to spend time with one parent. I approached him at a reception following his talk and ended up sitting with him for a couple of hours, during which I formed a great appreciation for his knowledge and experience.

When I returned home, we exchanged emails, and I suggested he take a look at some of the posts on our Firm’s blog. Much to my delight, he reported back that he had taken a deep dive (the blog has some 35 pages of posts), and he found much that left a very favorable impression. 

And here’s the best thing he said: “I’d hire you guys. You come off as very human. Not a common lawyer attribute.”

This comment, coming from a man who regularly consults with family law attorneys from across the country, left a big smile on my face. I am incredibly fortunate to have spent the last 32 of my 42 years of law practice with Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal, joining the Firm at its founding, and continuing happily to come to work, even at an age when most lawyers have decided to retire.

What the Public Sees vs. How Family Law Really Works

As a rule, the public knows lawyers through depictions on TV, in movies and novels, and through news reporting. Those portrayals, often filled with high conflict, hyperbole, and sensationalism, make for good entertainment, but they rarely reflect how our profession really works.

Why Empathy Matters More Than Aggression in Family Law

In my field of family law, we see people in periods of great personal crisis when the last thing they need is more drama and turmoil. A good family law attorney must, of course, know the law, but they must also possess the human qualities of empathy, understanding, and kindness. Although popular media like to present us as warriors, we occupy other important roles—counselor, compassionate listener, consoler.

Family lawyers must often tell our clients things they don’t want to hear. None of us enjoy hearing bad news, but if that news is delivered by a trusted, empathetic advisor, we are much likelier to hear and accept it. We’re also more apt to accept and appreciate the advice that follows.

Humanity Over Bravado

So, while some firms may lean into their “tough guy” images, we prefer to show our humanity. Our years of success suggest our clients share that preference. 

Paule, Camazine & Blumenthal lawyers will address your legal needs with a human touch.